5 Rihanna ‘Songs’ That Perfectly Explain Balancing Your 9 to 5|Side Hustle

I like to think that us side hustlers are flirting with the idea of having our own.

 

Testing the waters.

 

Wondering if we should stick to the 9 to 5 rivers that we’re used to.

 

Having a side hustle is rewarding, but complicated and many don’t explore it because of the fear of being overwhelmed.

 

Balance.

 

It’s key to not only survive, but thrive.

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Rihanna is the Queen of Side Hustle(s). As much as people are in her comment section about releasing new music and dragging her for being the “Avon lady,” she is goals on how to hustle…and do it correctly.

 

Sis is Jill of All Trades, and Master of ALL OF THEM! Though she has remained faithful and loyal in her marriage to music, her side pieces….ahem…businesses still get her undivided attention. She not only rules the charts, but the fashion and beauty industries.  Thanks to the phenomenal success of her FENTY Beauty line and Puma collaboration.

 

Rihanna’s hustle energy is what we should all channel into our daily lives when we venture into the side biz world.

 

Here are 5 Rihanna song titles that explain the balancing act of your 9 to 5ish and side hustle:

 

  1. FourFiveSeconds

 

Time.

 

It’s the one thing we can never get enough and balancing a 9 to 5 and side hustle often feels daunting. If you are struggling to keep up and feel overwhelmed, then you might want to take an audit of your daily life. I challenge you to jot down for a full week how you are spending your time. Even when you go the bathroom…yes it gets that real. What I have found with the many coaches and mentors of my life is they account for every hour, minute, and second on the clock. This is how they are successful and so productive.

 

Once you have finished your audit, you now need to look for the gaps you have in your schedule and this is how you can build in more time for your side biz. It is important to start time blocking your life and intentionally filling your day to day with activities that are productive. This is how you can equally flourish in your career as well as biz.

 

  1. Take Care

 

The old adage is true…

 

If you fail to plan, then plan to fail…

 

If you implement a plan in advance it will take care of you. As much as I would like to admit I have a full on plan for my content strategy on my blog or social media pages, I don’t. But I do plan my writing sessions, photo sessions, or meetings with clients when I can. You need to build in your plan what you need to accomplish. Whether it is writing, scheduling meetings, following up with leads, or content creation it is important to take care of the Big Three first. This simply is to tackle the biggest three tasks on your list first. They are usually the most difficult and bring the biggest headache. But once accomplished, it really does change the trajectory of your productivity for the better.

 

  1. Work

You know this song title had to make it in the lineup.

 

It is very important you utilize the free time you do have. So unfortunately, NO DAYS OFF! Use your time off the 9 to 5 for time on for the side hustle. If you were lucky, you got a long three-day weekend with President’s Day. Though I was off from my 9 to 5ish, I invested the time into build my brand. So take advantage of holidays, early releases, and lunch breaks, it truly makes the difference.

 

  1. Question Existing

 

You may not be familiar with this song choice since it wasn’t released as a single, but it’s a bop.

 

When you are a business leader, owner, and decision maker you will have to ask and answer the hard questions. You will have hard, uncomfortable conversations about the quality of work, your rates, your mess ups…yes you will mess up if you haven’t already.  Side hustles are meant to bring another stream of income and opportunity to grow. If it is doing more harm than good in your life, you might want to ask the questions Rihanna did to herself in this song:

 

Who am I living for?

 

Is this my limit?

 

Can I endure some more?

 

  1. BBHMM

Oh the anthem of all Bosses! Instead of B***h, let’s replace with Biz Better Have My $ for educational purposes. Raise your hand if you would be rich for every “can I pick your brain?” inquiry. I promise to write a post on how annoying AF this is. Stay tuned. For now, you are worth it! When it comes to balance, many times our 9 to 5ish funds our side hustle until it turns a profit. As admiral as it is to take on work for free 99, you need to get paid!  When you first start out, you will more than likely do pro bono work to bring awareness. But you did not invest time, energy, coins, and paper that folds to not get the check! Don’t be afraid to state your price and not compromise. You are not an imposter. You are the truth! You are everything they want and if it is the right fit they will hire you or buy your products/services.

Know Your Worth.

Then Add Tax.

FG

When Life Gives Us Mountains…

“He holds in his hands the depths of the earth and the mightiest mountains.” {-Psalms 95:4}

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A couple weeks after my 32nd birthday I sat numb in my doctor’s office. Her lips moved slowly and precisely, but I didn’t hear a word…just the typing of the transcriber in the room.

The next couple of hours were a blur. I just remember I called my Mom 21 times. She didn’t answer. I refused to do anything else until I heard my Mom’s voice.

So I sat in my car and waited….and waited…my phone buzzed. Work email. And waited. Eventually my Mom called. She had been out grocery shopping and left her phone at the house.

I couldn’t even get it out…I just blubbered like a baby. If there is one thing about Virginia Faye Baker Green…she’s a prayer warrior!

-“Who is bigger Faith? This mountain or God?,” she asked. “Huh?,” I replied. -“You heard me. Who’s bigger? That’s what you ask every time you feel fear, despair, or even this health scare. You already know.” I could feel her smile through the phone.

Fast forward⏭

After many tests, scans, and results, I have experienced a range of emotions, highs and lows, the mountains and valleys. And I know you are experiencing it too and if you aren’t, someone close to you is.

There is a mountain ahead and it’s scary, intimidating, above our scope of understanding and the uncertainty on the other side of it. But guess who’s bigger? I think you know the answer. ✨

 

What ‘They’ Won’t Tell You About Travel…

Wise words from the late great Anthony Bourdain on truly what travel is and isn’t. I can tell you one thing…travel isn’t what you see on your social media channels. It is easy to look at your favorite blogger, influencer, and celebrity and have travel envy as they “jet set” to exclusive getaways and post pictures effortlessly. Social media has given a false reality of many aspects of our lives especially with travel. If you are doing it just for the ‘gram…you are in for a rude awakening of the true meaning of travel. 

Rarely do you see the delayed/canceled flights, travel illnesses (Google Montezuma’s Revenge…that alone will make you give major side eye), lost baggage, language barriers, or the real dangers you can experience while traveling. Bourdain’s words resonate because it captures the essence of travel. 

As someone who frequently travels, l get a lot of questions…the main one…how?  I want to be very transparent about my journey on how I do it and how many of your faves do it too. Forgive me if I ramble on this post, but I am coming from the heart…LET’S GO! 

You Gotta Make Travel A Priority  

Have you ever heard the phrase “you make time for what you want to make time for”…? Insert an eye roll here because I hear my personal trainer now after I have slacked from a week’s worth of workouts. But it is true, you make time for what you really want…we text, call, spend on what we want. The excuse of “too busy” or “I don’t have the money” are LIES we tell ourselves and each other. Don’t believe them or even you if this is what you are telling yourself or others. If you truly want to travel, you must prioritize it as a part of your life. Until brands start to sponsor your trips, you will need to be aware of what is in your account and budget accordingly. Which leads me to my next point…

You Gotta Cut Your Expenses

When I got my first big girl job I was excited…Webbie’s I-N-D-E-P-E-N-D-E-N-T rang out from heaven’s ghetto and here I was doing the thang. Webbie and Boosie backed me up with their liberating verse “She got her own house, she got her own car, two jobs, work hard, you a bad broad.” Yes! That was my girls and me, shouting at the top of our lungs “”If you ain’t on, SIT DOWN!” 

I had the nice studio apartment on the 3rd floor, my own car, bought a nice living room and bedroom set, and cable with the premium channels. ALL BILLS PAID ON TIME! I finally made it…right? Uhhh no…I had it all and was miserable, the loneliest period of my life. It also didn’t help that I was in a toxic relationship that no one knew I was in until the end. The main reason I was miserable is because I listened to what people thought would make me happy. I didn’t heed to the inner girl who rather take a trip to Paris than buy new Louboutin’s. I had to shift my mindset on what normal was to me. I loved experiences over things and thank God for social media for confirming there were others there like me.  So with a lot of prayer and gumption, I broke up with the guy and broke up with my lease (side note: I do not recommend breaking a lease, I was fortunate and left without penalty due to a loophole..now a toxic relationship…BREAK IT OFF BOO!).  

You Gotta Sacrifice

I started to create a life that excited me and also afforded me to travel again. Jesus be out here answering prayers precisely. I wish I still had the paper I wrote down my prayer. But I asked Him for low rent (but safe housing), a God fearing tribe, and an opportunity to go back to school to get my Master’s. I mean…HE DID THAT. When I tell you I put down the actual amount for rent and in a few weeks my amazing friend blessed me with an opportunity I couldn’t refuse. I moved into her house paying the exact rent I wrote down on paper. I have not had my own space in almost five years because I have been saving, traveling, and finishing grad school. Traveling is so important to me I have sacrificed having my own home and space.

When traveling is a priority, life is about many sacrifices. I have had the same car for 11 years (paid it off five years ago), I don’t have cable, I use someone else’s Netflix and other streaming services. I buy cheap clothes and shoes for the most part. I just wear them over and over again. If you check out my Instagram, you will notice. (Heeeey boyfriend denim shirt..it’s my fave) I live with low overhead and direct my disposable income to travel and doing things that make me happy.

I recently moved in with my best friend to cut even more cost to prepare for the future. Maybe buy a house soon…👀Though traveling is a major priority, saving is still my top. I have about three retirement plans (401K, Roth IRA, and whole life insurance), I have a travel/slush fund, and of course my regular savings. We can discuss finances in another post. 

In the end, you will need to shift your mindset about what a “normal” life looks like, nothing anyone says will move you to live the life that you desire. I created this blog as a platform to inspire travel and not for you to want to duplicate my life, but rather to dream bigger and create the travel journey YOU want to live.

You Wouldn’t Water Dead Flowers…

IMG_7286So why is it we continue to water the dead “flowers” in our lives? I was scrolling through my feed on Twitter and @kelebom tweet read “Yooo, stop texting first and see how many dead flowers you’ve been watering.” This tweet resonated with me and I remixed it a bit as a caption on one of my Instagram post. But seriously, if you stopped texting/calling first would you realize how many dead flowers you have been watering? Or better yet, how many fake flowers have you been watering?

Last weekend I stayed at a beautiful lake house in hill country of Austin. I snapped this photo of these gorgeous flowers because I looooove white flowers. They are so classic, subtle and beautiful….BUT these jokers are FAKE as Steve Harvey’s toupee in the 90’s. Just like you wouldn’t water these, don’t hydrate dead, fake friendships and situationships that doesn’t need saving. Even if the external is beautiful, YOU DESERVE BETTER. Cut it off girl, let it go…hair isn’t the only dead ends that need to be cut some times.

FG