SUMMER WITHOUT SOCIAL MEDIA: 4 THINGS YOU SHOULD KNOW!

Have you ever done a social media detox? I am deleting my IG/FB apps from my phone because I need a break.

I am joining my friend and a few others on a Summer Without Social Media starting Monday, June 10-August 1, 2019. I am coming back on the scene a little earlier because my birthday and I have some fabulous things planned. So I will return July 25th.

Enough about me. Going off social media can seem extreme, drastic, and challenging. We are literally addicted to it. The notifications, the likes, comments, etc release dopamine in our systems and gives us a high, it is scientifically proven.

But how many of you know that everything must unplug sometimes to be plugged in again to work optimally? Do you know the same is for you?

Here’s what I know: I need to breathe. I need to be present this summer before I turn over into a new year. I am expecting great things to happen in my new season.

On the real, I know how nervous you can be on going dark, but I assure you it is a chance to recalibrate. Here is some advice and tips on taking the plunge.

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We take better care and protect our phones more than we do ourselves. We make sure the battery never dies, if it does, we quickly recharge it. 

If we only invested this much time in self. 

When is the last time you recharged yourself? Where you truly unplugged from all electronics and social media platforms before plugging back in. There are times we just need to refresh and relax before the recharge. 

There doesn’t need to be a profound reason/epiphany to step away from social media and devices.  If you are just tired of scrolling through your feed looking at the same ol’ same ol’ then maybe it is time.

Many of us fail to realize the occasional  ‘surfin’ is affecting our productivity, If so, it is time for a detox. 

Throw the whole phone away. 

Ok nothing that drastic, maybe not throw…but PUT the phone away. 

Here’s what happens when you unplug from the matrix:

1.) No one notices that you have disappeared. No one cares you are off the grid.

If you don’t think so, deactivate/log off your accounts and tell no one. You will soon join me at the dinner table for a dessert: humble pie. Out of sight, out of mind. No one notices, no one reaches out at all. If they did notice, they didn’t tell me. 

In fact, my first social media detox it took one of my friends at the end of week two of my ghosting to realize I was off the grid. 

“Are you off Instagram and Twitter,” she asked.

“Girl I have been off for almost 3 weeks now,” I revealed.

Eventually more of my friends did notice, but I had been nearly off for six weeks by then. 

Your family, friends, followers, and whomever get caught up in their own life with their problems,  day to day, etc. and aren’t paying it any attention. Neither should you, this is a time for you to be more mindful and present in the moment. Don’t be afraid of FOMO, it will be there once you return.

Sidebar:*** If you are a business account or have a huge following this need not apply. But you should have funnels built out to ensure you continue to bring in revenue.

I hate when people make grandiose announcements that they are taking a much needed break from their social platforms. This is attention seeking to me and unnecessary. 

Just ghost us. Will see you when you return.

2. People will reach out to you more because you are not as accessible. 

How many of us send DMs and also text

our friends at the SAME time? 

How about when it is your birthday and everyone posts to your Facebook wall with all the warm fuzzies? 

But your phone is dry.

Not a call, text, or smoke signal sent. I can admit, I am quick to post a happy birthday message to the ‘book’ and check the box complete. 

But do I follow up with a call or text to my friend’s phone? No. 

Isn’t shouting you out on the ‘gram or Facebook enough? It isn’t. 

I must admit that once I was off my social media, there weren’t many notifications coming through to my phone. 

Once my friends realized I was off the grid, the phone calls and texts were more frequent. When you aren’t as accessible people have the time to miss you in a sense. 

Being off the grid for a moment gave a chance for my friends and family to miss me enough to call and reach out. 

3. More time for Self-Care and Productivity 

My addiction to my phone and social media was out of control. I’m embarrassed to say how much face time I was giving my phone. 

If you are an iPhone user, then you may know a recent update tracks how many times you pick up your phone each day, the average amount you spend on it a week, and even identifies your most frequented apps. 

There is even an option where you can monitor and limit the amount of time you spend on certain apps. I have to give kudos to Apple for bringing some awareness to our daily obsessions. 

I had mentioned to my doctor about my lack of sleep and feeling anxious throughout the day. She asked me how did I start my day and how I ended my day. I ran down my routine.

AM

Wake up.

Check and answer work emails.

Scroll through social media. 

Brush my teeth.

PM

Shower 

Listen to music.

Scroll through social m-

And there it was, the root of my sleepless nights and anxiety throughout the day. My doctor suggested I leave my phone on the other side of the room at night and get an alarm clock. Also, to not check social media first thing and only schedule an amount of time to be on. 

I just decided to go cold turkey altogether and immediately saw a difference with my new routine. I quickly realized how easy it was to relax when I wasn’t glued to my phone. 

I slept better, longer, and deeper. 

I also amped up my self-care routine. 

I started with daily affirmations and my devotionals, those periodic facials became everyday routine. I even had time for bubble baths and to just sit still and pray. 

When you don’t have social media to occupy your time, I guarantee your productivity level will grow exponentially. I am a great starter, but horrible finisher. I would start a project and then get distracted by a few minutes of scrolling that turned into hours on social media. 

During my detox, I was able to optimize my time and my productivity level increased dramatically. 

This also helped with reducing my anxiety because I actually completed tasks in a timely manner. 

I read more of my bible, finished three books, exercised more, and even got in the kitchen…not just to eat, but cook! I started keto and so meal prepping was essential. 

My productivity at work even increased and helped me when I moved into my bigger office. 

When boundaries are set and social media is limited, my anxiety is controlled and I am more productive. 

4. No Longer Keeping Up with the Joneses

Social media is powerful in a positive and negative way. Have you ever logged on and immediately your energy shifted from what you saw on your feed or timeline?

One post, like, comment, or share can affect your mind, body, and spirit. And before we know it, we are playing the comparison game. 

You can’t compare your real life to someone else’s controlled online content. We easily forget and compare our behind the scenes to the the highlight reels shown on social media. 

We must be careful on the content we feed our souls. The content we engage or consume can positively shape or negatively impact. 

There is a constant comparison of relationship goals, accomplishments, careers, etc. that if not checked can become very toxic.

When I was off social media I focused only on me. This detox helped me to become more centered and only focus on my goals and path. 

Social media can be a distraction and slow down your progress if allowed.  So it is important to set periodic breaks to refocus on just you and not compare it to anyone else’s.

-FG

Do you feel like you cannot live without social media? 

Have you overcome it and found a balance? 

If so, what are some tips that you can share about how to unplug from technology and social media?

How to Style Photos for Social Media

 

Let’s be real…if you are wanting to monetize your social media and/or take your business to the next level, you are going to have to know some elements of styling–especially with photos. It is important to make sure you curate a visually appealing feed, especially on a platform like Instagram.

I’m not a professional photographer and I don’t plan on becoming one, but I am fortunate to have an eye. Because of this I have some tips on styling photos that I am excited to share with you today.

Before we get started a couple of disclaimers.

Disclaimer 1: I highly encourage that you invest in a professional photographer eventually. It truly elevates your brand/business and separates you instantly in an overly saturated market. Most photographers are aware of social media photography and how to give you the look and feel you want. It helps with your trust factor and consistency which equals coins!

 

Disclaimer 2: Highly stylized photos doesn’t mean direct sales. It doesn’t work like that, but it does build content for your social media channels and acts as fillers for the high value content you are creating. More than likely, you will not get a ton of likes or engagement as you think, but it is a great way to give yourself a break. Remember this isn’t a sprint, but a marathon. We are in it for the long game.

 

Tip #1: Choose Your Hero in the Photo

Have a main subject around which you can create a theme or mood. Instead of having several things just thrown together, be strategic with your space. Find one main subject, your hero, and have the secondary subjects surrounding it. I like to call it your hero’s supporting cast. The subjects should be distributed in a way that compliments your hero subject not compete for space or attention. The subjects are only there to insinuate the main piece of the photo. My main piece: planner. The notepad, pen, paper clips, and butterfly clips are the supporting cast.

 

Tip #2 Choose Your Color Palette

Remember theme and mood are what we are creating when we style our photos. Colors are a great way to create a theme and communicate with your audience about your brand. It just helps make it more cohesive. Only choose 1 to 2 colors and that they complement each other. Too many colors can be distracting and start to compete with one another. Remember as in the first tip, you want to complement not compete. Pick a main color and you can’t go wrong. A single focused color helps to convey the point you are making more clearly.

Tip #3 Tell the Complete Story

When selecting your props for a photo, make sure they tell a story that is finished. It can be tempting to try to incorporate props that have similar colors, but may not complete your story.  Ensure it drives home your story where it makes sense. Do not be afraid to use the tools you may use to make your product(s) as props.  For example, maybe you are a travel blogger and are heading to one of your fabulous adventures. Think about the tools you use and how you can visually tell the story: a map, passport, sunglasses, your favorite hat, and a travel favorite pouch. In my photo, I am telling a complete story with props on planning, goals, organization, etc.

Tip #4 Crop it Likes its Hot

This is the rule to live by! If you don’t get anything, CROP…CROP…and Crop! Many of us struggle with cropping because we like to show it ALL, but our eye is so smart that it only needs a reference of part of the item to get the full picture…pun intended. When you reference the objects exist, your audience eye will do the rest. A way to crop successfully is style your photo in a circle. The outer props are the ones you can position to crop and still tell a complete story.

 

Tip #5 Gotta Hit Those Angles

You know I had to reference a Drake lyric somewhere. When you have styled the photo the way you want, now you can focus on how to capture it through your camera lens. Try different angles, you want to draw your audience in to your main subject. Where is your subject in the frame? So maybe you angle it off center or direct overview (as my picture is), maybe directly at eye level. This is where the fun continues! Start shooting at different angles and figure what photo you like the best. Always shoot at three different angles to give yourself variety.

BONUS: Now it is time for you to practice. Remember just start doing it! The first few times you will suck at it, let’s just be transparent! BUT! The more you do it, the better you and the photos will get.

 

FG

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

What You Need To Do To START Your Business in 2019 (Video)

 

What do you need to do to start your online presence for your brand and/or business? Sometimes it’s closer than you think.  You just need to figure out how exactly to do it. Watch this short video on my thoughts and a couple of suggestions on how to make it happen and what you need to START! 

 

 

Vibes & Vision: 6 Things You Must Include On Your Vision Board

I am part of The Executives and we recently hosted Vibes and Vision, a vision board party for driven women alike in San Antonio. We held the event at the new women co-working space Annex Coworking. Did I mention the event SOLD OUT!? Kudos to Morgan Taplin for a successful event!

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Yes, women have a vision that they see will be manifested. September may seem like a odd month to host a vision party, but women are always working on new visions and new goals.

 

“Write the vision and make it plain.” Habakkuk 2:2, NIV

If you think vision boards are bogus and don’t work…YOU ARE A LIE! You must be doing it wrong because they work! It is plain and simple, just like the powerful line in the book of Habakkuk. When we write down our mission, vision and goals it has no choice but to manifest. Even our words that come out of our mouth are so powerful it brings them to fruition. When you create a designated space that displays what you want, it brings it to life. 

If you weren’t able to attend Vibes and Visions, here are the six areas your vision needs to focus on to create balance in your life:

-Health (Physical, Mental, Emotional, & Spiritual)

-Home 

-Finance

-Career

-Travel (Recreational)

-Love (Relationships) 

Instead of just putting down pretty pictures and thought-provoking quotes, take it a step further. For example, in the career area I put down Oprah. What does that picture on my vision board really mean? Do I want to be Oprah? Do I want to meet Oprah? This is why it is important to also incorporate goals. 

Write one important goal for each of the six areas. Once you define each goal: 

-Write it in present tense

-Use illustrative descriptions that make the vision a reality

-Include timelines and guidelines

-Repeat daily

-FG

 

8 Lessons Learned From Auntie Oprah’s USC Speech! (Yes I Was There!)

I knew something was up when an email went out that our commencement went from a non-ticketed event to a ticketed event. Major Also, it had moved to the Shrine Auditorium and we needed to claim our maximum tickets…I gave a double . I’m like “what USC Annenberg got cookin’ for us?” And then my phone lit up the color purple when the notification came to my phone. MY FAIRY GODMOTHER OPRAH WINFREY WOULD BE THE KEYNOTE SPEAKER FOR ANNENBERG CLASS OF 2018😩😩😩!! I thought…”WHAT IS LIFE?!! FIGHT ON!” 😩😩😩

 Fast forward to over a week later and I am still getting my entire life! I play her conversati…err…speech every morning getting ready for work. The ability Oprah has to connect to us where it doesn’t even feel like a speech, but a conversation is the reason she will forever be Queen. For the ones who have adult ADD or want the Cliff’s notes of Oprah’s poignant, much needed speech…look no further…I got you covered with the eight lessons learned! 

Lesson #1 Be the Truth

In a world where social media surrounds us like water surrounds fish, Oprah urged us as current and future communication professionals to be vigilant in seeking the truth. “The internet and social media is being used to erode trust in our institutions…interfere in elections and wreak havoc on our infrastructure,” she proclaimed. One click spreads fake news stories causing hysteria, an innocent Google search allows advertisers a window to bombard us and our phones have distracted us so much we have walked into traffic.  The solution is to push back with the truth, the only true way to strike down deceit and calm the hysteria. You have to combat the false narratives with real information and solid facts to set the record straight. Your job is to continue to keep the left, right, and center in check by confronting your own bias and reporting only the truth. This will build credibility and protect us from corruption.

Lesson #2 The Darker it is…the Brighter Your Light Can Shine

“You can use your gifts to illuminate darkness in the world. Our time is to rise in this moment, how bad things are, how terrible people are meeting hysteria with hysteria and it gets worse. We aren’t supposed to get locked in. See through it and transcend it. That is how you overcome trolling, meanness, divisiveness, injustices, and hatred. Use the moment to encourage and push you into the rising life.” -Oprah

Lesson #3 No New Lessons in Life

There are no lessons to learn, but relearn the old ones over and over again.

Lesson #4 Pick a Problem…Any Problem and Do Something About It.

The world has enough problems, it needs more problem solvers. Oprah named many problems we face that needs a solution: gun violence, climate change, systemic racism, economic inequality, and media bias were just a few.  Even if the problem is too daunting, do something “because that something means everything to someone.” -Oprah

Lesson #5 Declare War on Your Biggest Enemies

Whether it is procrastination, self-doubt, fear, etc. that lurks in the corners of your mind, it is time to declare war. Oprah focused on the enemy “cynicism” in her speech. We must make sure we do not succumb to our enemies because according to Auntie O it will “cloud our clarity, compromise our integrity, lower our standards, lose our empathy and shatter our faith.” What is your biggest enemy? It is time to declare war on it!

Lesson #6 You Build a Legacy Not from One Thing But Everything

Your story is still being written and you don’t get to decide what your legacy will be because it involves every life you touch.

Lesson #7 When They Go Low, We Take it to the Polls

Vote. Vote. Vote! People died for our right to vote and it really does matter. More than ever now is the time to get civically engaged. Pay attention to the people who claim to represent you, do they truly align with your core beliefs? If not, your vote has the power to make the change for better.

Lesson #8 Put Your Honor Where Your Mouth Is

This was my favorite lesson from Queen O. Keep your word! If you said you are going to do it, do it! Show up do the work, get your hands dirty.

As an added bonus, here are a set of golden rules to live by according to Auntie Oprah:

Eat a good breakfast

Pay your bills on time

Recycle

Make your bed

Aim high

Say thank you to people and mean it

Ask for help

Put your phone away at the dinner table

 What you tweet, post, or share on social media can be used in the interview you do today or tomorrow…or 20 years from now

Be nice to kids and elders

Be nice to animals

Know it is better to be interested than interesting

Invest in a quality mattress (your back will thank you later)

Don’t cheap out on your shoes

If you are fighting with someone you love, life is short even on our longest days

Dont confuse what is legal with what is moral

In life you are principled or not…do the right thing

Do not equate money and fame with accomplishment and character

Your job is not always going to fulfill you…days you might just be bored

Job is not who you are, just what you do along the way

Become so skilled, vigilant, and flat out fantastic your talent cannot be dismissed

Stop comparing yourself to other people 

 

JILL OF ALL TRADES…MASTER OF ONE…

 

 

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Communications that is! Don’t believe me, well you can take that up with the University of Southern California (USC), more specifically USC Annenberg School of Communication and Journalism! I now hold a Master of Communication Management (MCM) Degree. I can now add those three letters to the end of my name…I EARNED IT!

Faith R. Green, MCM, CTA

However in this digital age where hashtags are king, I am conflicted as MCM is better known as Man Crush Wednesday!

I am so excited for my graduation today! All the long nights, wine downs 🍷, prayers, and these Louis Vuitton bags under my eyes…all worth it! There’s just nothing like waking up in LA and having the OPRAH pour into you before you take the next step! USC Annenberg thank you for stretching and challenging me more than I knew was possible! My cohorts…WE DID THAT! Let’s party until it’s my bedtime 😂And when I get back, someone will have made my bed! What’s not to love?